I like to believe there are both benefits and drawbacks to every emotion. Anger is one that has a bad reputation for only manifesting during negative situations and for just adding to the issues. But there is such a thing as constructive anger, that you can use to motivate and refocus your thoughts toward a solution. Holding in frustration, annoyance, or disappointment can lead to physical maladies and continued problems.
The inspiration for this topic came about as I found myself feeling overcome with anger after arriving home. This feeling seeped into my pours five days in a row, before I had to finally stop and think about the source. I began to examine who or what was the center of this seemingly negative emotion. There was a twang of anger toward those in my house, but upon reflection I failed to come up with a reason. That only told me that what I felt was a consequence of my general anger. Then I thought about situations and experiences from the past week, trying to pinpoint the reason. And one day on my way home, just as the fury began to appear, the light bulb turned on. I was mad at myself. There were a ton of things I wanted to get done around the house, and I had failed to check one thing off my list. Instead of focusing on just one of those to-dos, I got angry about it. After figuring out the problem, I could use that mindset to come up with a plan that works.
Addressing anger in a way that turns the blame into something more productive, automatically changes the negative connotation, and shifts negativity to creativity. So the next time you are arguing with your significant other, boss, a driver who cut you off in the road, or just yourself; (i) identify the source, (ii) take a moment to woosaaaa, and (iii) redirect toward a solution.
Has anyone else found a way to make their anger constructive? Share your thoughts in the comment section below.