The ability to wholeheartedly exercise patience, to pardon, and to praise others involves actively doing these things on a personal level. Most of us are hardwired or taught to put family, friends, and community before ourselves. But how can you teach without learning, how can you help without practice, and how can you heal if you are not healthy. Our desire to care for the people we love will always take precedence, so when possible take the time to practice self-care.
Patience for others comes so much easier than having patience for ourselves. We have to get that perfect, high paying job, with all the benefits, send our kids to the best schools and get them involved in every extra curricular activity possible, all while maintaining healthy and functional relationships. Unfortunately it is not everyone’s reality. And that is okay. Say it with me, “That is okay!” Remember anything worth having takes time.
Providing and receiving pardon is one of life’s greatest gifts. But forgiving ourselves is something not typically done. Mistakes are an important part of the learning process. Embrace them, improve based on them, and then let them go. We carry a lot of baggage on a day-to-day basis, release some of the weight by telling yourself it is okay. And move on!
When was the last time you patted yourself on the back? When was the last time you looked in the mirror and paid yourself a compliment? Most would say these behaviors are silly but there is nothing wrong with a little silly. There is no better feeling than hearing what a good job you are doing or how great an outfit looks. And there is an added feeling of pride and independence that goes with having the confidence to say it to yourself.
Fellow Resolifers, I ask you to implement the three Ps at some point today. And to keep practicing until it becomes a part of your daily routine.
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