Reading up on various therapeutic techniques dialectical behavioral therapy stood out for its mindful focused ideas. Leading life in the present tense is said to promote a balance between the heart, the mind, and how a person reacts. The three states of mind described by DBT are the reasonable mind, emotional mind, and the wise mind. Throughout my blog posts I have described ways I believe remaining present can help in all areas of life. The differences between these three mindsets contributes to those notions.
When operating in this frame of mind you are considering the logical aspects of a situation. You are primarily working with concrete facts while leaving out bias views. An individual who is approaching a matter reasonably thinks to plan ahead, follow instructions, and conduct research.
Food for thought: Can you recall a situation where this mindset was helpful? Can you think of one where it was not helpful?
In this state a person finds assessing a situation from a logical perspective a challenge. An individual is driven by how they are feeling in that moment and will fail to consider more than one alternative. There is a lack of planning when motivated by emotions as an individual is impulsive when reacting.
Food for thought: Sometimes the greatest stories begin when emotional fueled. What situations can benefit from thinking from the heart?
The wise mind is the ideal state for any given situation as it suggests a person is thinking from both a logical and emotional standpoint. I like to think of this as maintaining a balance. This type of focus allows an individual to follow their values with a degree of assurance that the decision is what is best.
Food for thought: First reactions rarely stem from a wise mind, so in what ways could we achieve a balance before following through with a decision? Can you think of a situation where you used your “wise” mind?
Fellow Resolifers, we can all think of a time when thinking practically took over our feelings and vice versa. But let’s focus on the times we used both our strengths and work toward repeating that behavior.
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